Hey my fellow Sweets, Cashmere is well aware of my dating troubles so when asked to write on dating-I figured it would be easy. I had about a thousand different names to name this blog post, but this seemed to be the best fit. I have been from one end of the spectrum to the other in the last 8 months so I feel I am totally apt to dive into this. My boyfriend and I of 5 years broke up, I thought I'd marry this guy, truly. I got through it (with a ton of help from my awesome internship here at Beauty Bakerie) and am so much happier. I have been dating and trying to put myself out there but there is one thing I have realized...
Dating in the 21st century is CRAZY. It is nothing like it used to be or should be. I have read every Steve Harvey book, become happy with myself before needing a man to complete me, and yet, here I am, single as a pringle. Not for nothing, but I like to think I'm a catch.
Aziz Ansari said it best when he was on with Conan (watch it here) "I think it's really frustrating time to be a single person right now, I like the idea of being single in theory, you meet a bunch of different people, you get to know them, when you meet someone you really like, you kind of pursue a deeper thing, that sounds cool, I would sign up for that! But that's not what being single is anymore now."
and he is SO right. IT'S NOT. Dating in this century, being single, is a chore! It's swiping left or right on strangers, making an elaborate profile to look at your "match percentage" with another person (which means NOTHING), texting your thoughts instead of picking up the phone. There are text messages that make you smile and giggle and you think to yourself "awww wow! so sweet." and then things change, and they stop responding. This is relevant in both sexes from what I've experienced and heard from others. Most aren't brave enough to say they aren't interested. They just hope you take the hint by blowing you off so they don't have to be the bad guy. Most of us are looking for a man among boys, a woman among girls, and weeding through seems to be the hardest part. As soon as you find one you think is different.. a few days later he proves you wrong. and you know what? It hurts! You have act uninterested, because if you come on too strong (which can be as simple as a double text) you're "clingy" or "desperate". Call me old fashioned, but I will text first. I will not let my pride get in the way of something I could potentially want, or play this silly "game" that people play now. If I'm interested, I'll let you know. and I don't think there's anything wrong with that on either end, man or woman. Life is too short to play that game in my eyes.. Who wants to sit around and wonder? It's ridiculous! Since when do these little electronic messages and devices attached to our hands make or break a possible or even an already established relationship?!
I have learned A LOT about myself, the world, dating, and people in general these last few months. One of the best things I have learned are from the man himself, Steve Harvey, that you will never be enough for a man who isn't ready. This is so beyond true. This in some way got me through my breakup. If you haven't I SERIOUSLY suggest you get "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man" ASAP. Especially if you aren't feeling so hot.
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