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What's so sweet about dating?! by Katie H.

Hey my fellow Sweets, Cashmere is well aware of my dating troubles so when asked to write on dating-I figured it would be easy. I had about a thousand different names to name this blog post, but this seemed to be the best fit. I have been from one end of the spectrum to the other in the last 8 months so I feel I am totally apt to dive into this. My boyfriend and I of 5 years broke up, I thought I'd marry this guy, truly. I got through it (with a ton of help from my awesome internship here at Beauty Bakerie) and am so much happier. I have been dating and trying to put myself out there but there is one thing I have realized...

Dating in the 21st century is CRAZY. It is nothing like it used to be or should be. I have read every Steve Harvey book, become happy with myself before needing a man to complete me, and yet, here I am, single as a pringle. Not for nothing, but I like to think I'm a catch.

Aziz Ansari said it best when he was on with Conan (watch it here) "I think it's really frustrating time to be a single person right now, I like the idea of being single in theory, you meet a bunch of different people, you get to know them, when you meet someone you really like, you kind of pursue a deeper thing, that sounds cool, I would sign up for that! But that's not what being single is anymore now."

and he is SO right. IT'S NOT. Dating in this century, being single, is a chore! It's swiping left or right on strangers, making an elaborate profile to look at your "match percentage" with another person (which means NOTHING), texting your thoughts instead of picking up the phone. There are text messages that make you smile and giggle and you think to yourself "awww wow! so sweet." and then things change, and they stop responding. This is relevant in both sexes from what I've experienced and heard from others. Most aren't brave enough to say they aren't interested. They just hope you take the hint by blowing you off so they don't have to be the bad guy. Most of us are looking for a man among boys, a woman among girls, and weeding through seems to be the hardest part. As soon as you find one you think is different.. a few days later he proves you wrong. and you know what? It hurts! You have act uninterested, because if you come on too strong (which can be as simple as a double text) you're "clingy" or "desperate". Call me old fashioned, but I will text first. I will not let my pride get in the way of something I could potentially want, or play this silly "game" that people play now. If I'm interested, I'll let you know. and I don't think there's anything wrong with that on either end, man or woman. Life is too short to play that game in my eyes.. Who wants to sit around and wonder? It's ridiculous! Since when do these little electronic messages and devices attached to our hands make or break a possible or even an already established relationship?!

I have learned A LOT about myself, the world, dating, and people in general these last few months. One of the best things I have learned are from the man himself, Steve Harvey, that you will never be enough for a man who isn't ready. This is so beyond true. This in some way got me through my breakup. If you haven't I SERIOUSLY suggest you get "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man" ASAP. Especially if you aren't feeling so hot.

You can visit us for this week long segment and this week on April 23rd, tune in to watch our amazing CEO and Steve Harvey himself discuss dating in the 21st century!

*be sure to check your local listings* 
Have any dating horror stories you want to share? Any advice or information you love? Leave it in the comments below!



8 Responses

Jade
Jade

April 22, 2015

I had to kiss a few frogs before I found my prince…but like a good beat, love takes practice and patience! Can’t wait to see the Cake Boss on the Steve Harvey show! ?

Roxane
Roxane

April 20, 2015

Back in my day, dating meant going out to lunch, walking and holding hands, sitting in the back seat getting close enough to smell the soap he used, making eye contact without uttering a word, becoming slowly aware of his humanity. What you got going on today are words that leave the receiver with ideas concocted in their own mind. Texting to get to know someone is like getting a grain of sugar and by the time you have a 1/4 of a teaspoon, their gone…dissolved.

Naomi Sanchez
Naomi Sanchez

April 20, 2015

Dating has been feeling like a chore lately. These guys are full of crap these days. I can’t wait to watch the show and see what the Cake Boss herself has been through. Also, I like articles by Katie, they’re funny and real.

Kmonique
Kmonique

April 20, 2015

You are one of a kind. LOVE WILL FIND YOU LIKE A THEIF IN THE NIGHT DONT DATE JUST DO YOU AND BAM LIKE DAMN HE WILL APPEAR!!LMAO LOVE YOU HAVE FUN LIVE LIFE TO THE MAX GORGEOUS!!!

Skye Smith
Skye Smith

April 19, 2015

I totally agree Cassie. You will never be enough for a man who isn’t ready.

Bella Caravecci
Bella Caravecci

April 19, 2015

I’ve been following this brand for years and I’m just amazed at the growth! This CEO is about business so it makes sense if she’s single. Some men are intimidated by the power of a woman. It’s happened to me more than I care to count. Aziz Ansari sheds light on the male perspective. Its sad to see that we all agree that there is a problem but we aren’t fixing it. It begins individually. Congrats on the show. I’ll be watching for sure! -Bella C

genesisbeauty
genesisbeauty

April 19, 2015

ohmagawshhh I watch his show all the time! When does it come on?!

makeupwhore
makeupwhore

April 19, 2015

omg she’s so cool! dating is really tuff these days we text we talk we may go out and then that’s it. If we even make it out he may be just not really ready and that is super aggravating.

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